International Men's Day in 2018
Is There Life After Shame?
After the first few questions, it became apparent that I was queer and had a shaky relationship to being a ‘man,’ and that the experience of myself and two of the other speakers was different than that of the darker skinned Muslim immigrant on the panel with us. When we talked about surviving sexual assault too, it just completely melted the walls we’d built around gender going into that day.
I hope we can collectively reach that melting point again. I hope we can put down our defenses long enough to hear each other and value one another long enough to heal one another.
Imagine Healing Spaces For All Genders & All Earth's Children
I want to be strong, and confidently proclaim that I am not ashamed of my sexuality, my heart, my sensitivity, or my humanity, but such a declaration is at times more of an aspiration than a truth.
In some contemporary Pagan and other healing-oriented communities, the idea of having group spaces which are exclusive to either men or women (or more specific experiences of manhood or womanhood than that) can be controversial and perennial conflicts. Part of these conflicts I think stems from a scarcity mindset around healing.